Masculine Feminine
aggressive passive
leader follower
rational emotional
strong weak
intellectual physical
Now just to start my argument I'd like to pose a question to the ladies. Think about the guy you had a huge crush on. How did he make you feel? How many of the traits above applied to you at that point?
If you are with a significant other who doesn't make you feel the above, you're still looking.
It's natural for women to be followers and emotional. Their bodies are not naturally built for "strength" For millions of years males have been the active hunters and gatherers, the protecters and providers. It's evolution, women have evolved to be the nurturer of the home, while males have evolved to lead device plans for survival, effective hunting, battle strategies etc. Females should embrace their role in nature and therefore society.
There's no easy way to say that these traits are true just don't over think them and obsess fighting labels that work.
NOW STOP. after reading the above what traits have you exhibited from the list above?
I was also drawn to the institutional system of oppression. I think the pattern continues in most places because schools lead by white people were better funded in the past, which gave them better facilities and teachers therefore better education. Parent's in general want to provide their children with the best education and so they propel the system by sending their children to the schools with better academic records. So I think it's not too much of a racial oppression thing but a support system driven by the desire to provide a better future for your children.
Women, much like men, are individuals looking for different things out of relationships. Your comment not only assumes that all women, or women in general, are looking for the same thing; it assumes that women are looking for men in the first place, and enforces the "normalcy" of heterosexuality and heteronormative relationships. (And assuming that women naturally want someone who is 'dominant' to them, and who makes them feel weak, quite frankly makes you sound a little creepy.)
ReplyDeleteBesides that, to lump women into the categories of 'nurturer' or 'emotional' just amounts to bending to the roles that society says you're supposed to bend to; it doesn't have anything to do with nature. It has everything to do with patriarchal society saying, "men are inherently better at these things, and women are better at -these- things," with the subtext being, "so women should just do what men say because men are better at calling the shots." It's a cop-out, and it's one that causes problems for everyone. It's the stigma that says men aren't allowed to cry or are bad at raising children; it's what makes people say "women can't fight on the frontlines" and "she belongs in the kitchen." It's a totally unhealthy way of thinking and it limits what people can do by putting them into stupid boxes under the guise of "well that's how nature intended it to be." And if you've heard that line before, it's because it's been applied elsewhere in history. It's been used against black people because white men decided that they were 'naturally' just not as intelligent. It's being used against LGBTQA individuals RIGHT NOW to keep them from being able to legally marry. So MAYBE women are naturally all passive and that's how it's supposed to be. Or MAYBE that's just what we're told in order to keep us that way, and out of the way.